When I hear women talk about men I often cringe at the things they mention. My head shakes as I wonder where the hell did they come up with that?!
Men don’t think like women. I’m sure many of you read the book ‘Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus’ by John Gray, well, it’s true. Not only do our bodies react differently, our minds work in an odd way also.
First, Our fascination for other women.
Oftentimes women are bothered when their man looks at other females. Ladies, if you think that’s ever going to stop you’d be better off reading the next edition of ‘Why I’m single.’ It won’t happen. It will never happen. We will imagine and fantasize about them no matter what. It’s instinctive. No matter how beautiful our spouse is, we will still acknowledge and ‘marvel’ at other women. Think about it, we’re no longer in an age where our next door neighbor is two miles away and then you marry the first daughter of so and so. As soon as we step out of our homes we’re tempted. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G women wear and how they behave in general relates to sex in some form or fashion; from tight jeans to a dark eyeliner. In other words, temptation shows up as soon as our feet hit the cement floor. If your man says he doesn’t look at other women or even fantasize about them, he lied to you.
So fact number one, men will always, always, fantasize about other women. Get used to it. (And men should accept that their woman fantasizes about other men also.)
Secondly, Prince Charming doesn’t exist.
Nope, he doesn’t. Jessica Rabbit doesn’t exist, neither does Christian Grey. If you think he does, well chances are he will show up with a lot of emotional baggage, as a poisonous gift received from the evil witch. Men are humans and, frankly, most men are wussies. They’re just as afraid about life as you are ladies, they just don’t show it; it wouldn’t be very sexy, huh? Let’s face it guys, in many instances we have just as much balls as women do.
Women, you better save yourselves and don’t wait for Prince Charming to do it for you.
Third, Sex.
We don’t need ‘emotional connection’ to have sex. When we look at a complete stranger who attracts us we sure as heck don’t think about the kind of flowers we will buy her. We imagine her naked. We fantasize about her in bed. They say lust is men’s greatest weakness. It is. If you read the Bible, it brought powerful rulers down in a blink of an eye. We think about sex all the time, romanticism…a lot less trust me. So it’s important to communicate your sexual fantasies to your man, and that he does the same. We all have them. Just like he must respect and accept your sexual needs, you must accept and respect his, even if you don’t agree with them. To deny his fantasies or judge him will be a deal breaker. He will fulfill his fantasies anyway without your knowing.
Remember, men are just little boys at heart, they all need a woman’s touch and understanding.
Above all, remember one thing ladies, YOU have the power over us. Trust me, without you we’d be nothing. No guy will ever admit this but it’s true. Everything we do relates to impressing you in some form or fashion.
As Stephen Mitchell wrote so well in the Tao-Te-Ching: ‘We join spokes together in a wheel, but it is the center hole that makes the wagon move.’
Women, You are the center that makes the wagon move.
With Purpose, Passion, and Love,
Frédéric Byé
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