I got married last Saturday. I was never into marriage; to my generation marriage doesn't mean anything anymore. Why? We witnessed our parents lie, cheat, and steal as they were married. The ring around our finger doesn't change much about one's personality, except that it looks good and shiny. The vows, the promises, everything marriage represented to our parents...come on, they no longer exist. How can they? We are in a society where we want everything quick, easy, and with no effort. Why bother to maintain a relationship when it's so easy to simply find another partner?
The truth and the matter is, I found out that if I wanted my dreams to come true I needed a mature, sane, constructive, and consistent relationship. It was not a 'maybe,' it was a 'must.' Then, with God's grace, I met J. We built our relationship and went through many difficulties in the last five years. When time for the wedding came, I felt confident about our decision; I felt safe and I trusted her. But then again, at that point, if she would have told me she changed her mind and didn’t want to get married, I would have been fine with it. It just was not that important to me.
Long story short, we tied the knot in a quick ceremony at the City Hall; the whole thing lasted ten minutes. Then we had an evening with friends and family. By midnight, everyone went back home their stomach full and satisfied with the restaurant we chose.
As I am getting use to the silver color around my ring finger, a strange, fulfilling feeling came over me the next morning. I'm married! Really? Me? Married? No f'n' way. For the first time in my life, I feel I have a valuable, noteworthy relationship. For the first time, I feel I have a real partner, someone to live this adventure called Life with me (and I with her). For the first time, I feel she is my woman and I am her man, we are a team, and we will support each other through thick and thin, as clichéd as it may sound. I feel more powerful in my relationship, and in the world in general. The fact and the matter is, I am forever grateful to have such a powerful, confident woman by my side, who knows her self-worth.
Not only that, as I looked at the pictures of our special day, she is beautiful. Sooooooo beautiful. Man. I made it.
I am happy, confident, and powerful.
With Purpose, Passion, and Love,
Frédéric Byé
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