THINGS MEN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WOMEN

I’m a man who’s been fortunate enough to be in a relationship for the last five years with someone who is willing to tell me the truth about how she feels and how women behave.

In the relationship I am now, I came to the realization that I knew nothing about women. Zilch. Notta. Nil. And believe me, when a woman is willing to tell you this to your face, chances are your ego will be crushed, your confidence shaken, and you realize that as much as you thought you were a stud, you are not.

Most men nowadays get their sex education from porn. The woman with the big breasts who, by penetration only, has a delightful orgasm. She shouts, moans, acts as though the man doing it is her God. Well guys, breaking news, he’s not. And she’s not enjoying it. Believe me. It is my understanding that she’s even probably high on something, you know…stoned. Not to mention the lubricator they use, just watch documentaries on Youtube and you’ll get a behind the scene look.

When guys are fifteen, twenty, twenty-five, not only do we think we’re studs, but our friends often push us into peer pressure to ‘go talk to that girl, show us how much of a man you are!’ or ‘if I would have been in your place I would have told her this and that.’ Guys are full of piss and vinegar when together, but when comes crunch time (taking action towards women), our balls shrink to the size of raisins. Not only does porn screw our minds up about women, but we have peer pressure to show our clueless friend that we’re full of testosterone…even though we have no idea what to do with it.

Here are some fundamental truths about women:

1.      Few women reach orgasm by vaginal or clitoral stimulation only.

Bummer. Guys, the fact that you’re going at 100 miles an hour like a freaking rabbit doesn’t do much for her, in fact, she probably doesn’t feel anything. You’re not Ron Jeremy or Lexington Steele. Unless she’s willing to fake it to satisfy you. Take your time, you’re not in a rush (unless you do it in an airplane restrooms), learn about women’s body; you might go ‘aaaa jeez…really? I don’t want to read a freakin’ book!’ Trust me, from what I’ve been told, few men know how to pleasure a woman, don’t be one of them because guess what, all her friends will know that you suck in bed, besides you. 

2.      Men are like the sun, women are like flowers.

Men shine always, ever ready to ‘enlighten’ his female counterpart. We see a stranger on the street who attracts us and suddenly a strange force, like an involuntary impulse, takes over us. We could have sex right here, right now. Women…not so much L…unless she’s in one of those rare periods when her hormones are playing dirty tricks on her body, and good luck trying to figure out when it’s happening. For the most part, they need ‘watering’, seduction, romance. In fact, a therapist even told J, my partner, that women are able to live with romance only! How boring would that be for us guys, huh? Well, it’s the way it is. Most of the time, romance wins over sex. Guys, get romantic!!

3.      There should be a ‘beware’ sign hanging around every woman’s neck: Hormones! Hormones! Hormones!

Guys, they have hormones, we don’t. Don’t try to understand it, it will never happen. When she goes off on you for being a selfish prick who doesn’t appreciate her, quietly listen, nod, say ‘I understand.’ Believe me it works. It’s a pain, but it works. Two days later she’ll have forgotten all about it, and everything will be back to normal. The worst thing you can do is argue with her during those moments; you’ll lose, hands down.

Overall, the things we guys should remember is this: When it comes to sex, women enjoy the general experience, not just the act itself. Get off your porn and get on real dates.

Women are sensual beings. They don’t care how fast you go, they want to enjoy the moment; put some music, light candles, make sure an agreeable scent permeates the room, learn how to dance (according to women, men who know how to dance are good in bed.)

Finally, women are all about emotions. Everything goes through emotions, so don’t try to rationalize them, simply show that you care for her.

With Purpose, Passion, and Love,

Frédéric Byé