MEN AND MONEY (AND THE IMPACT ON WOMEN)

Men and women don't have the same attachment to money. In my personal experience, when I met clients as an advisor, women would have very different reactions from men when they couldn't afford a product. Women would say it straight up: “I don't have the money,” whereas men would groan, avoid my glare by looking at the document in front of them, and I would be met with statements such as: “this is of low quality because...”, “do me a favor, can you check this or that and comeback?” (of course they would cancel the next appointment),  in other words, they would say everything but the truth.

To men, money means self-worth, they can provide, it's related to their power, social status, and let's face it, it boosts our confidence about the other gender. It's all about the other gender; women show off their lipsticks, jewelry, sexy clothes, etc.... Men, it's all about wealth. The dough. The more dough, the more power, the more power, the more chicks. Bottom line.

Again in my experience, women are willing to talk openly about money or lack thereof,  they share out loud how their pay is low, they say how broke and how hard times are. Men...not so much. And let's face it ladies, a broke man isn't sexy, whereas a broke woman means she needs help, she needs us. And then we can become a hero.

As mentioned above, money is directly linked to our self-esteem, what we can give to a woman. That's why when we notice women with their Dolce Cabana bags and wide-brim Fedora hats, the first thing which comes to mind is how much she may cost us, and can we really afford her?  Our hearts might skip a beat when we see all that glitter, what's attractive to you might not be so attractive to us, depending on our economics.

Let's face it, only 4% of the population makes over 100 000$ a year, so that means few of us can afford you a wealthy, noteworthy lifestyle we can gloat about. And men, that's what we want: gloat about how wealthy we are and how our woman is well taken care of.

Money is linked to our ego too; our most precious asset. Having money means our ego is intact, we're safe, we got it all together. Financial struggle means our ego is shaken, crushed, we feel humiliated, and less than a man.

So many women say how guys never approach them, in fact the less wealthy a woman looks the more opportunities she'll get. The more fancy she looks...men will think twice; not because she's not attractive,  but because of economics. Pure and simple. We're providers, that's our instinctive nature, you don't give us the space to provide, we'll walk away, and you're still going to be looking for the man of your dreams. I'm not saying to look deprived, I'm saying be careful with your fancy, high-class manners...they can be either annoying or downright unattractive.

Bottom line ladies we use money to impress you, and when we don't have it we feel ashamed. Think about money as you think about your weight. Being looked as a broke ass dude is the equivalent of being looked at as out of shape and unattractive. Your weight and appearance are your sex appeal; to us money is our sex appeal.

With purpose, passion, and love, 

Frederic Byé